Truly Popular, Truly Powerful

Why is it that people feel the need to make others feel bad? Why is it that people need to exert power over others in order to feel powerful? Answer: because somewhere inside, the people who do this are unsatisfied with, or lack confidence in themselves.

Want to be truly popular and feel good about yourself? Go out of your way to do something nice to someone. Give someone a compliment. Offer someone a hand with something with which they're having difficulty. Just say "hi" to someone by name. Do all of these things sincerely, and soon you will have the respect of more people and more friends than you ever had before.

I know. I speak from personal experience.

So, if being nice to people results in more friends, why don't more people do it? There's a simple answer to that too: being friendly and complimentary and helpful opens you up to being hurt in return. Safer to be mean because it puts others on the defensive.

I'll tell you this much: if you're genuinely nice to others, you will be repaid in kind 10, 100, 1000 times over. It's worth the risk.

This will give you a true kind of power. Not power over people but power of people. Not the power of intimidation, but the power of cooperation. There's even a word for this: synergy

I know. I speak from personal experience.

Finally, remember this:

"No one can make you feel inferior unless you let them." - Eleanor Roosevelt